CLIMBING OUT OF THE DEPTHS OF SHALLOW LIVING

In marriage, we should come or be in close contact with our spouse. Our union requires us to stick or hold together and resist separation. However, that's made difficult with allegiances to other people, places and things.

Embrace your truth. Your truth should not be a secret. Life's experiences can not help others unless you share the truth of your life experience. Walk proudly in the pieces of information about circumstances that exist or events that have occurred which formed you into the person that you are.

We cherish the faith of a good mate. Humans desire the consortium of a trustful relationship. Over time we learn however, that in God we can trust, at times rely on family/friends, and bank on a good education. These are things we can regard as probable or likely.

I grant you this much, I hereby grant you freedom. I grant you relief or an exemption from the rules and requirements necessary to maintain a relationship. Because I love you, I set you free.

We must eradicate childhood feelings of a vague unpleasant emotion that is experienced in anticipation of some  misfortune.  It's called, go back and get it.  Go back and get the knowledge you may have missed during formative years.    

There are many interpretations and definitions of god. God is regarded as the Supreme Being and principal object of faith, the creator and sustainer of the universe. God is considered to be the universe itself. What's certain is man's lack of consensus and differences regarding his theoretical understanding of our benevolent example. As in the various religions, the concept of a Supreme Being is shaped and altered to fit man's wants and desires. Our internal voids are the justification for the continuation of a specific behavior. To take the position that feeding personality traits that bring a personal feeling of satisfaction is because God made us this way is easily argued. But what's the use of arguing with someone who wants to be and do as they will? Leave them in their state of rational thought. This is how religion has been done over the centuries. Everyone's view differs from the other. We should all agree however, that God is not the contributor to...

When there is a conflict of people's opinions, actions or characters, be the first to compromise. The trait of being resolute in conflict is a skill that must be sharpened to reduce the brewing of discord. Two people in a relationship will not agree on everything, so be prepared to compromise. Encourage your partner, and let them know when you need their encouragement and/or support. Set reasonable boundaries and respect your partner’s privacy. In healthy relationships, we should feel focused, happy, self-possessed and free from agitation especially in times of stress. By establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries, couple’s relationship experience is more comfortable while flowing progressively on the road to being capable of existing or performing in a harmonious and congenial combination. To set healthy boundaries provides an opportunity to reinforce our capability to release fearful, distrusting perceptions and operate from a place of love. When we op...

There is an art to breaking up. We must select class over confusion, dignity over deception, and integrity over entanglement. This is not the time for the ex-partner to realize the best part of being a couple is sharing their life with someone else. Apparently this wasn’t written into their script with you and now must be later understood in their next episode which there will be new actors. The scenes may never cross again unless there are children involved. For the sake of children, we must find common ground to merge our movies at times. For the sake of children, our rewrites for our respective episodes have to make provisions for things such as co-parenting after divorce. How the children’s age may affect their adjustment to life with one parent? How to answer the questions that children have after an event of this type to assist them through the process? More importantly, learning to move on when you have been written out of your significant other’s movie an...

In love, it seems one person in the relationship always loves more than the other. Although, it is not always the one who loves more trying to hang around to have a major role in the next episode. There is one person wanting to be seen and/or heard in the other’s next episode. Not realizing that the two life movies have taken different paths and had rewrites that have written them out of their partner's scene.

There is a saying that, “life imitates art.” Well, if we view past relationships as only an episode in our life’s movie, getting on to the next scene is made easier. An episode is defined as, “A part of a sequence of a body of work, akin to a chapter of a book.” There are often times “cliffhangers” within our life’s movie. A cliffhanger is an episode ending at a climactic moment. The next chapter could contain the perfect relationship, but we will not know until the current one comes to an end.

People with malice towards others will come up against forces in life which has a way of humbling and allows their hearts to eventually become more empathetic. There is always something that will open the heart to being more compassionate and understanding of the plights of others.

We must not become consumed with someone who may have betrayed us and redirect our focus from what has happened but begin to reestablish our trust in people again. Whether one chooses to salvage an existing relationship or move forward to a new one, it is important to let go of anger, for letting go is the release which starts the process of healing.

There is a great emotional impact and erosion of trust as an effect of betrayal. Anger tends to provoke conflict while hate motivates evasion or withdrawal. Jealousy can give an incentive for everything from depression, hostilities, or revenge. Recovering can leave one reluctant to trust anyone else for a considerable period of time. One must keep their head up and back straight during times such as these, remain calm somehow, prevent ourselves from becoming too angry, and be sure to appropriately place our distrust.   

Betrayal can be stressful. The most common forms are breach of trust, unfaithfulness, deception, disloyalty or to mislead. This behavior can be expected from those who may not care for us and therefore it has little affect. Why are we crushed emotionally when those who claim to love and care for us betray our trust?

The things that matter in our relationships are intimacy, passion and commitment. They are often referred to as the “triangular theory of love” or “the three pillars of love.” Master these concepts and rule your world of love.

By placing our focus on the things that we love the most about our mate instead of trying to change them, we can foster a relationship of unconditional love.

When in a relationship, we should learn to praise one another for the things that each does right, and avoid passing of judgment and criticism at all cost. Develop an effective way to communicate when feeling that our needs aren’t being met. Our differences in morals and beliefs makes it necessary for each to understand the others view or opinion in a given situation. In marriage or committed relationships, we must learn where our first loyalties are.