CLIMBING OUT OF THE DEPTHS OF SHALLOW LIVING

Do not be overly critical of your loved one's intentions or actions. Never be too much of a "know-it-all", it turns people off.

Many can catch but few can hold. To obtain love is something that many people hope years for and is the fulfillment of a dream. The wall of independence that is built to protect ourselves when single must be dismantled once in a relationship.  

To admit to the existence of a condition or state of affairs almost beyond one's ability to deal with requiring great effort to bear or overcome, is not negative but paves way for resolution. Avoidant personality disorder is refusal to recognize or acknowledge a problem and presuming the denial to accept or believe in its existence cures the problem.

When in a marital union a person whose behavior deviates from what is acceptable especially in sexual behavior can fall into a routine way of functioning that is contrary in nature. It is not completely clear what comes first, the justification of an opposing direction from a spouse intimately, or a resistance to advice, recommendations, or counsel which makes them markedly different from an accepted norm in all forms of interaction. Not realizing their showing an inclination to dispute or disagree on most subjects. One can be given to debate, discussion, or quarreling for its own sake and often employing arguments not in accordance with fact, reality or actuality. These tendencies are of a complexed mental state involving beliefs, feelings, values, and dispositions to act in certain ways. Many find themselves in and out of multiple relationships for failure to self evaluate.

To have a trait of being uncommunicative is somewhat different from keeping things secret or having a cause to be quiet and not talk. To be kept from expression, for example by threats, pressure, or inhibited by force or authority, is different from refraining from show of emotions, desires, or impulses. Find your golden voice and change the future, for silence is not always golden.