BEING CONNECTED

Sometimes our spouse can show unresponsiveness by their personal withdrawal. A word of approval seldom passes their lips. Any effort to impress them seems almost trivial, inconsequential, deserving only a small token of their admiration. This treatment can cause one to feel devoid of importance, having little influence worthy of notice. We at times undergo an unconscious process that tries to reduce the anxiety associated with instinctive desires to be admired and valued. Leading us to not be inclined to talk, give information, or express an opinion. Living with a person who shows an unbiased, impartial, disinterest, with virtually no understanding of social cause and effect can be difficult. A defense mechanism that transfers reaction from the subject matter at issue, to one more acceptable, allows us to distance ourselves from these events in order to remain as cohabitants. One would think, to seek to understand the nature, meaning, or magnitude of mutual respect in marriage should merit the approval of any sensible person.