CLIMBING OUT OF THE DEPTHS OF SHALLOW LIVING

A committed relationship is the social force that binds us to the courses of action demanded by that force. The development of a disposition or tendency to yield to the will of another. We must evolve a temperamental disposition to be agreeable, with a courteous regard for the feelings of others.

Sometimes our spouse can show unresponsiveness by their personal withdrawal. A word of approval seldom passes their lips. Any effort to impress them seems almost trivial, inconsequential, deserving only a small token of their admiration. This treatment can cause one to feel devoid of importance, having little influence worthy of notice. We at times undergo an unconscious process that tries to reduce the anxiety associated with instinctive desires to be admired and valued. Leading us to not be inclined to talk, give information, or express an opinion. Living with a person who shows an unbiased, impartial, disinterest, with virtually no understanding of social cause and effect can be difficult. A defense mechanism that transfers reaction from the subject matter at issue, to one more acceptable, allows us to distance ourselves from these events in order to remain as cohabitants. One would think, to seek to understand the nature, meaning, or magnitude of mutual respect in marriage s...

Those reared under rules of entitlement tend to be exceptionally bad or displeasing leaders. A great leader takes account of information that should be kept in mind when making a decision . Those who may have never been taught to play by the rules, or who lack concern or empathy for people less fortunate than they are, generally lack experience to weigh the impact of their decisions on others for the advantage of greed, profit, or gain. There are entire families that have become very wealthy throughout history who do not run for political office, but control those blue collar politicians in office who pass legislation that favors those, behind the scene, entitled people with little regard for the impact on the environment or those less fortunate that may be negatively effected. On the other hand, a person with a special advantage, immunity, or benefit, not enjoyed by all, who has been taught to have concern and empathy for other people tends to be a well-balanced object...

To be human or having human attributes as opposed to those of animals were once considered advantaged within the family of hominids. With superior intelligence and articulate speech, of all of God's creations, he was endowed with responsibility to rule, guide, and/or inspire the world around him. The capacity for rational thought, inference, or discrimination gave man his superior advantage over other living things. His expression of emotions and rational motive for a belief or action provided man with an aptitude or possession of qualities, especially mental qualities, required to adapt or conform to new or different conditions. Overtime, man has undergone a change, becoming different in essence, losing his original nature. His indifference to the sufferings of others, not having or showing interest or even a nonchalant concern for his fellow man's plight has caused him to drop or sink in the eyes of God the creator. Although man has upgraded his cave, he's downgraded in ...

By definition, love must be sacrificial for us to know that it is true. God asked for an unblemished animal to be offered to Him on the altar. This was written in the Old Testament. We were to sacrifice our best sheep or goat. There is only one source of true love. Accepting Jesus’ love opens the door to a new life. Our value and identity is protected for all eternity with Jesus, who loves us so devotedly that He gave His own life that we may live. As we understand this truth, it transforms the way we think about love. For true love is sacrificial and giving inspires loving service to our spouse. Choose to love one another in marriage, realizing that love is a commitment, not a feeling. Love requires us to reveal our true self to one another. One of the most misunderstood aspects of marital love is the fact that true love is totally volunteered, genuine, and free of exertion of shrewd or devious influence for one’s advantage or control. Make time together a priority. Time is ...

Marriage can quickly deteriorate into a tedious, unemotional, and lonely existence for one or both spouses when the couple loses emotional intimacy. Marriage should be the most cherished relationship anyone experiences in life. One of the greatest ways to enjoy something is to share it with someone else. The contentment of intimacy and that emotional anchor of matrimony are why we marry in the first place. To be married without intimacy is worse than being single, although it must be stated that some people enjoy being single.  In marriage, sex is never just about sex. It's about soul blending, which is a fundamental part of marriage, found in no other human relationship. A marriage void of intimacy can: stir resentment, foster distance, make it easier to rationalize infidelity, invites the enemy into your home and bedroom, and increase interest in other forms of sexual fulfillment. Too long with little to no emotional intimacy can lead to a lack of physical intimac...

A person who relies on another person for support ( especially financial support ) is extraordinarily different from one who marries into a situation out of love, which happens that their spouse has a greater income. It is important for the one with the greater income to remember that ones value in the relationship is not determined by their fiscal valuation. Although men customarily hold the accomplished position in marriage, there are increasingly more women holding the purse strings in today’s society. A life partner, although once blindly, excessively devoted or adoring to their mate, can begin to feel being under the power or dominance of their spouse if care is not taken to ensure against such emotions. When one exerts shrewd or cunning authority over their partner, feelings of being discarded, abandoned, relinquished, not wanted or needed may surface. One may feel so undesirable in the eyes of their partner, as to be incapable of arousing even jealousy. Their opin...