SECRETS AND LIES

Our spouse is our confidant, not our family, friends and coworkers. There should be no need for secrets unless we marry the wrong person. When we begin to confide in an enlightened inner circle outside of our marriage, that is asking for trouble or confusion that results from cloak-and-dagger activities. We should be able to tell our spouse anything, even if that thing results in them expressing their disapproval. Usually our spouse will love us regardless, they just need to be kept in chief position within our inner circle of advisors. To loan or give away money, even money that is our own, should be done with the knowledge and approval of our spouse. The activity of keeping something secret requires a great deal of work and effort. But what is done in the dark eventually comes to light. When light shines on marital secrets, the marriage can be destabilized and we only have ourselves to blame.