SECRET BEHAVIOR

Why allow small matters, not worthy of keeping secret from your spouse, tear down the trust in the marriage?  Underhanded behavior is sometimes difficult not to do when you've made the conduct a pattern.  Just because your spouse doesn't call you out on every little white-lie or omitted detail doesn't mean that you were successful in keeping it from them.  Instead, they've learned to pick their battles wisely, and you've chipped away a little more of the trust in the marriage.  Face uncomfortable situations head on, not lie or omit speaking on the matter until you've destroyed the fabric of trust that once existed.